EP 03: Healthy Resilience As An Actress & Magazine CEO : Holly Glasser

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Welcome back Warriors to never settle the podcast, designed to move your mind, while you move your body. We have an inspiring and motivational guest today on the show. Holly Glasser, she is an actress model and CEO of myth magazine, which will get a lot more into in this episode. Holly, thank you for taking the time today to be here to talk with us.

Sarah. Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here. Where are you located and what are you doing right now?

Currently I am in New York City. I work for an actress/model the CEO and I also have a fashion boutique as well that I'm working on the side which I started recently. Busy busy entrepreneur and talent. You know, you have you have quite a history in acting and modeling.

When I was looking at your resume, it is incredibly impressive for how much you've done the list goes on and on, on the screen. Page that you sent me. What does that Journey been? Like, you know, it's so funny.

When you hear someone say you've done so much because you know, when you yourself look at your own resume, you're always more critical. And I finally got anything because, you know, you're always thinking of a certain standard you're trying to reach. I started out doing extra work in New York City and then that evolved into some bigger roles started out with sharp short films, after extra work and then that built to some indie films and then I was in Teenage Ninja Turtles 2 and a scene with Megan Fox and then went to LA, did an indie film recently and had I think five pages of speaking lines and that was a big deal for me because that was the longest I've ever done. So yeah, when you say, I've done a lot, you know, I've never really been a guest star, a co-star and a television show.

Yet I didn't really push that hard but I was just having fun mostly. So the things that I have on. Yeah, I like that, I like that, you know? And so I think if you really want to book the bigger roles, you have to you have to work harder for.

But I was having fun. Just doing the smaller things to me. A Satisfied in my life for the most part. But sometimes, you know, I have bigger goals that I want to reach, but other times, it's nice to kind of, honestly.

I like having more of a private life, being a micro influencer. It's nice, you bring up many great points, but two that are really standing out from anyone. You were having so much fun with doing that. I think opens the doors for more opportunity because people see it.

They see it in your face. They see it in what you're bringing on camera and film, especially because your You're creating and the other part that you mentioned is about pursuing what really connects for you. Tell me about mid magazine will get into fashion later but tell me about myth magazine because it's a very cheeky cheeky acronym. So tell us what it stands for myth.

Stands for modest is the hottest and yeah I moved to Los Angeles after being in New York City for three years and I wanted to explore the acting and modeling field out there. I was actually in a casting directors, office for Ballers HBO, and I made friends with the girl at the front desk. We ended up going out to lunch at lemonade and Lala and it was actually a friend of hers found me on her Instagram and scouted me to start the magazine with him. First after hiring me for his fashion First fashion, fiddle, and then we had so much fun doing this that we decided together to start the magazine.

The, what is a magazine stand for so myth being? A modest is the hottest is all about inner beauty and tastefulness. And we focus on stories of actors models, singers and dancers, fashion designers, who really reflects that inner beauty and knowing their worth and identity and also being leaders in their Community giving back and all our editorials such as our fashion, editorials are all tasteful. So we have conservative guidelines for modesty as well.

Tasteful nothing too revealing so that really forces us to look within ourselves. And that is the most important in the thing that causes to be most beautiful comes from that inner beauty. So myth is all about light and Radiance that starts in the heart. And then those stories of those who are actually doing something to make the world more beautiful place, shining their light from the inside out and that that really helps me find people that I want to feature when I'm looking for people who come from the heart, I want to know someone's heart, they can be beautiful to look at but I want to see that.

It's also the inner beauty, you know, Mind Body Soul is really important. Didn't when I'm featuring someone so true. And I love what you said, you stand for that. In every degree, you see it.

And feel it. If you're listening, you'll need to check out the video version of you because you see it what I want to ask and go a little bit deeper on. What is it that you personally do? What is it that you personally do for your own inner beauty?

Because you're gorgeous on the outside as well, but what do you do for your own inner beauty? I do what you want of self-reflection. I'm very honest with myself, sometimes a little too critical of self which is something I'm working on. There's a balance, there know, there's a balance there is I can be very hard on myself a little bit of a perfectionist that time some also working on being gracious to myself for giving self.

Also, you know, not holding a lot of shame or condemnation or guilt because you're the cat's in the background. I don't know, I have grew up in somewhat of a culture of Shame where I was raised with a very stringent rules and guidelines so learning how to to have my own sort of rules in my magazine. Even, you know, I have to make sure that I don't come across as judgmental as well, which I have been called judgmental before. So to be really honest, that's something I'm working on internally because I realized I was judging myself a lot.

So therefore I was judging others. So really having to spend a lot of time working on myself to to know my worth and identity, so that I can and love all people, the same and not come across as condemnatory. And my language language, especially because what I'm doing, it's like, okay, modesty and there are a lot of women who don't relate to modesty and wanna be more revealing and show off their bodies more and I'm more on the other spectrum of that. So, really learning how to navigate that tort territory is well, and and speak in a way that's You know, showing this is what I stand for but I'm not here to put someone else down for their specific way of living, you know, as being in the spotlight models actors and also High driven entrepreneurs.

I really lot to what you're sharing. How do you quiet that? Judge, that inner judge, the inner voice, because you're correct and it's when you judge yourself it's a lot. Easier to judge other people and what standards we hold for ourselves then create standards for the rest of the world.

So what tools are you implementing to share with any listeners? Yes, to really quiet that voice of judgment. You really have to have a lot of grace and mercy for yourself. First before anyone else, you have to look at the your mistakes that you've made and forgive yourself.

That is so important. You have to know your worth. You have to know your identity. It's a wake up every morning and say you are beautiful, no matter what.

One says about you you have something to share with the world. You are valid you you just need to look at yourself and Speak Life. Over yourself every single day, no matter what environment you were raised in. Because my, my personal background, I wasn't always encouraged in my gifts and talents even as a child or hearing that loving voice to affirm me from those who were supposed to protect me.

So I had to learn to know that for myself and I'm also faith-based, And I believe in God and so knowing his truths has has filled my heart with a lot of that were think self-worth and confidence, that comes from, knowing that I am a beautiful creation. And regardless of my mistakes, there is still love. Even for all of us when we've made mistakes. And then the next part is learning how to move forward from, from your mistakes, or your flaws and learning, how to basically be sometimes even use them to your advantage.

Tell a story. Say, okay, I used to be this way, I used to, I was always the most improved Award winner in any sport. I played you know, because I always start out really bad but I would listen. And then my teacher would tell me.

Okay, do this. And then I will get better and he would say, you're the best improved, you know? So I really think the story comes out of that of people seeing. Okay, we made these mistakes but then hearing how we overcame.

And so I really, I really aligned with your mentality of the warrior Spirit the Overcomer, and the go-getter and the Inner and the achiever and using those things that were setbacks and turning them on their heads and making those things are strengths as well. That's beautiful and there's so much of what you just shared. So to backtrack a little bit you use a lot of mantras in visualization exercises vacations, definitely. Yeah for any writing the story of your childhood message which is where a lot of our, you know, I love you.

Mom and Dad but it's where a lot of our traumas. Happen. It doesn't have to be mom, Debbie can be school environment, you know, our own stuff. So it's reworking a lot of the story that you were told younger doing a lot of rewriting and this story that you're sharing of resilience and one of almost Redemption for being the most improved.

You know, that's interesting. Yeah, I think that's one of courage and strength because to really, you know, to be given I remember in High school and it was like most beautiful eyes and like nicest voice. I think you got the award of the school because really, to be, you know, the most important means that you worked and you were courageous enough to not stay where you were. I love that one.

I don't think I'm gonna have to write to my high school. I don't think you have that one, but I would have liked that one Secretariat of the racehorse. I always loved movies about like the one in the back of the race, who was always the worst man? In the end won the race because I think I feel like even when I was a little girl, I was not necessarily mentally handicapped, but I remember gymnastics and I could not do some of the things that other girls could do as a five-year-old.

Six room, I could not do a left-sided cartwheel and I could not do a split the same way and so, you know, I'm not really sure. Even to this day, what put me behind a little bit, some ways physiologically. I learned Now, later my hips turned in, you know, but I think all of us in some way have. Maybe something that we do love about ourselves.

You know, all of us have some sort of little insecurity. Maybe we don't like the way our noses or maybe we don't like the way our legs turn in slightly more than others. But it's learning to truly love those parts about of ourselves to love. Even our, you know, the our flaws.

And then when we do succeed, when we finally learn how to do that, you know, Arabesque what not then, then we work. You, like you said, we've worked so much harder for it and so, it's something. More to celebrate for because it was just a little more of a challenge and it shows like the human resilience. You have just being were created to be to be a cheaper.

So we really are and to not let those things keep us back. Stem mindset of being Limitless and exactly the message overcoming adversity and finding that inner beauty which is myth magazine. I love that. I love that.

What would I'm you know being models? As well. And like I said before, as an actress in front of you are constantly judged her, we are constantly judged and sometimes it has absolutely nothing to do with us why we're rejected. Maybe I'm too tan, maybe you have brown hair and they want blond.

It's like how do you overcome the stigma when there is critique? Because it's a hard thing to accept to say you know what? This Is me and that goes back to the inner beauty. The overcoming the stigma part is really knowing that each and every person has their own Beauty and different people are meant for different things.

There are some models that were tall and created for the high fashion. Runway. I'm a petite model. I'm only five foot two.

I have a high gum line when I smile. So I show more gum when I smile. So I would not necessarily be a smile model but I it's still funny because my Smile is one of my favorite things about me, even though it's not commercially standard. Right?

So I've learned to love my smile, despite it not being necessarily up to par with what you might consider a teeth model but it's really knowing that. Okay, knowing your place, there is a place for everyone in this world and we each have our role to play and it's finding your specific Niche. So for me as the model being five foot two, I know there are certain campaigns that I will never be hired for because of my height limit for certain jobs that will never book Because of You know, maybe my Wasn't quite right for that but you know I can hand model. I consume a little like a football.

You know what I mean? Or maybe they want to see my ear up close. You know, you never know. Yours can be money makers to.

So the model is there to show excitement for a specific product to get other people excited about it. So yeah, I think that you just have to know where you belong agree. It's in business terminology, it's about double Downey on your strengths and that's exactly what you just shared you shared. Um, really great insights there about finding your Niche, you know, leaning into that.

Space of this is me, and this is, this is where I can make, you know, the most impact. Leave the financial part out of it. There might be a lot of people who are listening and saying, oh, she's only five for tune, she's modeling. Well, that's exciting.

How did you get into modeling? You know, I came to New York City and 2012, my background. I was actually a Spanish major from North Carolina University and North Carolina. And I was a Spanish, teacher and interpreter and I love these jobs, but in my young to mid-20s, I really wanted to be more creative and travel and have adventures.

And I thought modeling and acting would be really fun, and no one had ever particularly told me. Oh, you're so beautiful. You know, you should be a model, not really what. I just thought it would be a fun career that would allow me to get to travel.

So I came to New York and started taking photos with a few photographers that I met along the way. Hey and I put a portfolio together and approach to age Agencies at their open model calls and I got rejected my first time and then I took better pictures and went back, six months later and one agency accepted me and they were great agency. And from there, I started submitting to projects on my own as well from various websites and you'd be surprised. I mean, I, it was so much fun because I'm like, can I do this?

I don't know. And I started booking things and it was really an adventure. It was really fun and I still do it, and it's been. Wow.

You know, almost a decade and it went by so fast, you know. It again, it takes courage, it takes courage, and it can be very easy to, you know, say, oh well, she's a girl, you know, but your it's beyond gender. It's beyond, you know, what, what the profession is. You are strong strong character.

I will say Sarah that I've been through a lot of Trials than most people don't know about things that tested me over and over and over. I would say I've died and been reborn. I've I've been reborn multiple multiple times in the last seven years and each and every death it strips away a part of this weakness and you become stronger. And I really do feel like I'm a warrior.

So I really gravitate towards the language you use, because my spirit is fierce now. And I used to, when I first came to New York, I was just a fragile. Little, you know why wide-eyed full of wonder, young girl, but now I'm a woman and I'm, I'm Fierce, it's true, but I think there's also a dichotomy there because I try to stay tender-hearted and fragile as well. Fragile in the way of loving delicately forgiving fiercely as well.

So it's like a to forgive fiercely as also a tenderness and a fragility as well. So I try to have that duality in my nature. It's a beautiful balance to have, and it's owning that femininity with the Inner spirit of it's my podcast. So I'm just going to say it as it is, but it's I have a phrase.

It says Do no harm but take no shit. And that's exactly, you know what I'm sensing, you're too polite to say it but that's how I say, don't like her. Have a mouth sometimes when I'm like that, yeah I'm just going to be honest. If you are open to share in your business ventures, what has been one of the hardest struggles that you have later, maybe overcame or did not overcome And there's so many it is it's certain people that you thought you had their support that where your protectors were family.

Friends lovers, who did not end up being your supporters and your protectors and this was something I never expected and things came up out of the blue and the last seven years in my career, where I was confronted, Really deep Trials of certain people that I really loved. That showed me that they did not love me back, including family friends, and a man that I had been in love with. So this was very stripping and humbling because to be honest, a lot of my modeling and acting career in the beginning. I recognized subliminally that my motive for what I was doing was to be loved more and to be accepted more, especially because I Really get that at the child.

So I thought if I reached a certain level of success or obtained, a certain level of, you know, achievement that I would be more loved and accepted by the ones that I wanted to love and accept me. And when I realized that there was nothing I could do to win their full approval, that's what drove me to my knees and I sunk to the floor and that's when I died and was reborn because it no longer was serving me to do those things for that mode of I had to have a different motive and from that death, you know, my favorite quotes Sarah is when they buried you in the ground. They didn't know you were a seed. I got chills when you said that.

I got told the first time I heard that because that is my life in a nutshell, she was them to them, you know, in a nutshell, literally, I feel like I am a seed in a shell that is growing into a tree and it's only from being buried that I came back up, and this is becoming now truly flourishing and blooming. And now bringing others along with me because I want a forest, you know, I don't want to be the only tree standing, you know what I mean? Wow. Okay, you and ladies and gentlemen.

Warriors were listening, she is an oak. Tree know some no, no, little palm tree here. It's like the roots of an oak. My goodness, and that she wants a forest.

I love. I'm so touched that you can see that because that's exactly the tree that I resonate with you. Oak tree. Did you any visualizations with that one?

Well, it shows. Yeah, absolutely. I've had actually a dream where I saw an Tree. And I do have a lot of dreams and things, my mind is very creative.

I sometimes do poetry, and I draw with chalk or just colored pencil sometimes what I'm seeing in the, you know, it before me in the creative realm, you know, and to help me verbalize and share with others. What I'm seeing in this spiritual journey, right? Because if we can show others in a physical way, what we are experiencing spiritual, it really helps bring it to life agent it really? Does because you're starting to visualize it one for yourself, but also to put it out there for others to see as well.

And then it doesn't just become a thought because a lot of people go around there like yeah. I have a lot of dreams but a dream is Just a Dream until you actually put it into action. So in action is the drawing, it is the writing, it is the sharing with someone. It is the visualization within the dream and you know, share exactly what you said in that.

Brings it to life. So, what is next for you? What is next for you in these dreams into action? You know, that is an interesting question because I do feel like now after about 10 years or so as an actress and model I am transitioning a little more and to holistic health care because I went through so many personal trials that tested me Mind Body Soul that.

Now, I want to incorporate something holistically Healthcare wise for the artists especially to help them Thrive long-term, right? Some kind of Therapy and also treatments. Because something I have noticed is burnout, right? Because we as artists sometimes have so much pressure on us and are criticized so much or sometimes were even the judge of our self or others like we mentioned earlier.

And it can be very draining and exhausting and we might not always have the support of those. We love and we also might just grow up and want to start families. Ultimately. And but if we want to be lifelong are And not burn out.

If we want to thrive long term, then we really need to make sure we are taking care of ourselves and I will admit to you. Sarah. That is something that I did not do. When, when things hit the fan, you know, when life got hard, when I didn't always have the support that, I felt that I needed at the time.

I had to look elsewhere and I didn't take care of myself, emotionally, physically and spiritually for a while as much I was neglecting eating full meals. Sometimes I would skip meals. I Would be stressed. I wasn't sleepy.

It wasn't on purpose. It's just when you have so much going on internally, the others can't see. You tend to neglect yourself sometimes. So now I am being much more intentional about my health care, my meals and I noticed that something you do as well.

You're so intention about healthy eating and I think that's awesome. I really respect and admire you for that because it's not easy and it takes self-discipline. So, incorporating a lot of self-discipline in some, my life, not just my career. And that's the thing Sarah because I was doing all these things but I wasn't doing anything for myself to make sure I could survive.

So there was a little bit of burn out. So I would say for the artist to thrive long-term they really need to learn how to slow down and Pace themselves and make sure they are not neglecting their emotional, their spiritual, and their physical health. And if you really take the time, sometimes you have to go a little slower and you can't do every little thing. But you'll notice that the opportunities even if there are fewer and farther and between their richer And then you put more of your heart and soul into things.

The things that you do end up doing instead of just staying busy. I am really against the idea of just busy busy busy on the goo grind grind, you know the hustle I'm cheering her on I'm like yes I hate that word busy. It's like awesome I can feel my calendar with walking around in circles too but I'm cheering you on stay busy and it became an idol in my life where it forced me to not have to look. At the other things they were going on.

And so there came a point where I no longer could survive if I was going to ignore the other things going on inside. So I'm like, okay, breathe time to really focus. And he'll and let go of a lot of things and let some other things in that I was not allowing emotionally spiritually. You know, you know, making sure you're not believing lies about yourself and when you strip away, everything that's like the root.

That's like the bulbous root of that. Seed of the oak tree, I mean, an oak tree, can't grow. Strong less has Deep Roots, so you have to make sure that your foundations and the pillar of your soul are routed on truth. Because if you have even just one little lie about yourself, I'm not pretty enough.

I'm not good enough. I'm not tall enough. I'm not this. I'm not that I'm not.

Talented enough. I'm UPS not smart enough. You have to find that lie and you have to just her, rip it out. So that it's, you're not growing like a twisted Branch, you know what I mean?

Because I had some twisty branches and I had to cut them off and throw them into the fire. And so, now I'm getting some pruning done, you know some fine-tuning, some honing, you know what, you call it a fire diamond and going through the fire and be coming out more dazzling than before and that's a scary process and that's where the courage comes from because it takes a while. While to get up strength because it hurts, it hurts to have things ripped off of you. But until you're willing to go through a little bit of that stripping, you will never really grow.

The power I can't even follow up with another question after that powerful close. So I really, you know, usually I close with what is it like to settle but I think you just let it go there you know it's just a in the weeds. And you my dear are a beautiful flower meant to Blossom to grow into that. Gorgeous Oak.

That is awaiting, you that you were continuously watering every day. It's beautiful to see Holly where can we find you? You can find me on Instagram at Holly Glasser. Just hollywood33, elas Ser.

Yeah, I'm on IMDb as well. If you want to see my my film and TV credits there, nothing huge, but I had fun. So there's that and then myth magazine.com, am I th for modest is the hottest myth magazine.com? I am as well and Facebook and Twitter with my name, Holly Glasser, and then Twitter is Holly underscore class.

Or so you can find me on all All the major social media platforms. She's being modest as her magazine calls for. But I think we have an all of this a course coming for warrior University as well with a lot of the overlaps that we're doing and what you just shared. So stay tuned over there.

And we're University for those of you who are listening. Thank you for tuning in and we're going to drop all of those links Below in the description that Holly mentioned. So you don't have to remember, you can, of course, go back. That gives us another listen.

So thank you and A huge. Thank you to you. You are beautiful soul inside and out. You are a true power and force and the definition of resilience.

Thank you so much. She's back. Thank you chicka. Momentary pause to get more water.

That's called a siesta though. Calm down. Say you're Mona siesta. In turn says buen fin.

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